Relationships come in all shapes and sizes:
To keep a relationship healthy communicate your beliefs,
morals and expectations early on.
There are several issues that can severely jeopardize a
and/or Drug Use
I’m not in a position to make judgments…nor do I wish
to. I’m not suggesting you tolerate and/or accept any of the above
actions, but if you want to work things out, all I can offer are ideas on
how to approach the situation.
Dishonesty is a tough one. I’m assuming
you previously let them know your expectations/consequences. Perhaps ask
them why they felt it necessary to challenge the issue and go from there.
Depending on the severity, perhaps request you speak to an impartial party
until the matter is resolved. www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3405_dishonesty.html
has lots to say…“lies, dishonesty or secrecy tends, especially
long-term, to be disastrous and debilitating. Emotionally, it can cause us
to feel shame and regret; it can destroy our sexual relationship as well
as our relationships with friends and family”.
Unfaithfulness: see above, plus…refrain from
any intimacy (including kissing) until they allow you to escort them to a
doc/clinic for a clean bill of health. This serves a few purposes…it’s
a natural consequence, it gives them time to think, and it protects your
has lots of good info. The DuPage Co. Health Department has a STD/AIDS clinic at
111 N. County Farm Road, Wheaton, IL 60187, 630/682-7575…I think they
also have services at the Jackson location in Lombard.
Drunkenness: depends on the level, frequency
and actions taken while under the influence, perhaps request they attend
AA meetings. There are also meetings for family/friends. www.communityresources.net/alanon.html.
Theft: another big one because of the honesty factor.
Request that they personally return the item with an apology and face
whatever consequences. I’m sure there are support groups out there but I
couldn’t figure out what to type in www.google.com
to find themL.
Drug use: Require they get immediate and
continuous help. There are several groups out there offering help for both
the user and the family/friends of the user. www.wsoinc.com/index.htm
I also found several sites with multiple topics:
issue(s), only you can decide if you can/wish
to help them through. Just make sure you always have enough support and
information to keep yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually